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Are you a time saver or a time waster?


By Melissa Martin, Ph.D

We are a
planet of time-saving and time-wasting fanatics. Remember the tale about the
race between the tortoise and the hare? While the arrogant hare goofed around
and napped, the slow but steady tortoise crossed the finish line first. 

In the days
of old, consumers visited the butcher, the baker, the candlestick maker. They
chatted, gossiped, and shared community news. Timeworn traditions turned into
trends to save time as busyness bombarded us from sunrise to sunset because of

And you can’t
stop progress. The telegraph, the telephone, the cellphone. The radio, the
television, the Internet. Feet, horses, wagons. Bicycles, trains, automobiles.
Planes, helicopters, rockets. Progress gave us electricity, indoor plumbing,
and refrigeration. Did progress give us more time or less time?

The more
technology advances, the busier we become. Hurry and scurry — obsessed with
saving time. We wolf down meals to move on to do more: gobble, gulp, guzzle.
According to to World Health Organization, more than $10 billion is spent
worldwide each year on antacids. We eat stress and disrespect the time allotted
to daily living. 

Extreme Time
Cheaters was a reality TV show about people who go to ultimate lengths to
optimize time — washing dishes in the shower, ironing shirts with the
underside of a fresh brewed coffee pot, shaving legs while in the pool. Won’t
hair clog the pool filter? 

Being more
organised in order to find shoes, coats, hats, backpacks, purses, and other
items in the morning is smart and gets families out the door quicker. Using a
roadmap is about efficiency — getting lost in the jungle makes you a late
dinner guest. 

You won’t
catch me drinking coffee in the shower to save a minute or two; not my thing.
However, I do own an undisclosed number of the same black socks. Why? Because
the laundry monster eats one sock of the matching pair. So, I outsmart this
sock-stealing fiend. Piling instead of filing can be a time waster for writers.
Musing and rushing is counterproductive. 

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What wastes
time? Too much TV; too much social media; too much partying with mood-altering
drugs; zombified brains waste time and energy; too much shopping — buying more
and more dust-collecting stuff; too much play or too much work. We need to
balance our time. 

A 2016 study
(download the report at www.pages.dscout.com) followed the device
usage of 100, 000 people over a five-day period. By tracking taps, swipes, and
clicks, participants made on their smartphones, researchers concluded that the
average user touched their phone 2,617 times every day. Shazam! That’s over
2.42 hours of phone usage for the average user and most is spent on either Facebook
or Google. Eek! Read more about the heavy users. 

And guess
what? We still only get 365 days per year, 12 months, and 168 hours per week.
An hour still holds 60 minutes. And one minute is still 60 seconds. Time
doesn’t change. The sun comes up and the sun goes down. Each morning you get
86,400 seconds.

“You may
delay, but time will not.”—Benjamin Franklin.

Why are
humans so illogical? We try to pack more and more activities into the same
amount of time. Employers overwork and overwhelm employees. Workers skip lunch,
lose sleep, and give up family time. Parents overschedule kids with too many
activities. Or over summer, while both parents work, they allow kids to lounge
at home and binge on videogames and social media. 

Time isn’t
the problem. What people do with time is the problem — setting too many goals
in one year, unrealistic expectations of achieving in a short period of time, not
saying no to another event or activity, making the daily list too long, worrying
and dwelling on past mistakes gets you nowhere. Fear of failure that keeps you
stuck is a time stealer. 

 “Try to imagine a life without
timekeeping. You probably can’t. You know the month, the year, the day of the
week. There is a clock on your wall or the dashboard of your car. You have a schedule,
a calendar, a time for dinner or a movie. Yet all around you, timekeeping is
ignored. Birds are not late. A dog does not check its watch. Deer do not fret
over passing birthdays. Man alone chimes the hour. And, because of this, man
alone suffers a paralyzing fear that no other creature endures. A fear of time
running out,” surmises Mitch Albom in his 2012 book, The Time Keeper.

In reality,
you can’t save, waste, or cheat time. You can only manage or not manage
thoughts, feelings, actions, and reactions about daily, weekly, monthly, and
yearly activities. Time is neither good or bad. Time is neutral. It’s what we
do with our time that counts. And time is subjective because what matters to me
may not matter to you. Alas, it’s impossible to control time. We can only
control ourselves and our activities.  

 “Man wants to own his existence. But no
one owns time.”—Mitch Albom (Melissa
Martin, Ph.D., is an author, columnist, educator, and therapist. She lives in

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